Why I need Spanking

It is a very complicated question - “why do I seek out encounters that result in me, an adult man, receiving a spanking?”  Serious spankings are not fun and they are not supposed to be.  A spanking hurts and it is especially humiliating for a grown man.  Nevertheless, I crave these encounters and actively seek them out.
I can only answer the question of “why” in my own case.  For me it is all about the surrender of power.  The physical pain itself is not the “hook” for me.  When I am in a situation where I am going to be spanked, I have completely transferred power to the person who is going to spank me.  This is a big change from everyday life.  In life, adults are generally polite to each other.  We are asked to do things, not told to do them.  This is not the case when we are children.  As children, we are often “told” what to do by our parents or teachers.
For me then, age regression is also a key factor of any spanking scenario.  I prefer spankers to treat me like a boy and in return I will treat them like an older authority figure, or more specifically, “a dad.”  So from the very beginning of a spanking meeting our roles are clear.

What is Important

Here are some of the moments that make a spanking situation more meaningful to me.

1.  Lack of choice.
The dad makes all decisions for me.  “Son, I’m going to put you over my knee and smack your bottom hard!”  There is no question asked here, it is not up to me whether I will or will not get my bottom smacked, dad will make that decision.

2.  Dad’s convenience.
Spankings are given when and in a manner that is convenient for dad, not me.  This is a big one because it encompasses most of what occurs.  All dads have their preferred way of spanking a boy’s behind and they should and will make all decisions on this.  A boy’s wishes are not considered.
3.  Enforced nudity.
Most spankings are administered to a boy’s bare bottom.  This entails a degree of nudity for the boy that is not of his choosing and is certainly not to his advantage.  For me, perhaps the most significant part of any spanking is when dad pulls down my pants.  This is an unequivocal act that totally underlines dad’s authority over me.  He has the right to strip me solely for his convenience and benefit.
4.  Vulnerable and humiliating positions.
When being spanked a boy is forced to assume especially humiliating positions that expose him in ways that are normally totally unacceptable, yet are an integral part of a spanking.

My Perfect Spanking

So here is what makes a spanking “perfect” for me. 

Dad should announce the spanking: 

“Spencer, your behavior has been unacceptable.  I am going to punish you.  I am going to pull your pants down, put you over my knee and smack your bare bottom hard, young man!”  The more specific the description of the upcoming spanking is the better.
Dad should pull my pants down.

It is very important to me that dad actually pulls down my pants himself.  Nothing says “I’m in charge,” more than dad undressing me for a spanking.

A good telling off:

Once my pants are down and I’m standing in front of dad naked and embarrassed, a good telling off is very effective.“OK young man, you were a very naughty boy today and that’s why I’m now going to smack your bottom good and hard.  I don’t want any repeat of this behavior, understand?”

Dad should physically place me over his knee:

I like dad to physically place me over his knee and then adjust the position to his comfort.  The more my bare bottom sticks up, the more humiliating it is.

During the spanking:

Performing the spanking is dad’s job of course, and each dad has his own methods.  I prefer hard, regular smacks over my whole bottom.  I also like when dad engages me during the spanking:  asking questions, making me count strokes, etc.

After the spanking:

After I have been spanked I like “the dad” to stand me in front of him with my bottom still fully bare and give me a good lecture about why I was spanked.  I should also be made to fully apologize for my misbehavior.
Corner time:

No spanking should be concluded without me performing some corner time, with my bare, red bottom fully on display.

Display

For me being “seen” to be spanked is also important.  This can take 2 forms.  Firstly and most appealingly, is for me to be spanked in front of others so my humiliation and red bottom can be witnessed as it is happening.  Failing a live “audience” a video is the next best thing.  It really is important to me that I am seen to be a naughty little boy.
My sore bottom

Although as I stated earlier, the physical pain is not “the hook” for me it is still an important reality of my spanking.  The unpleasant reality of a smacked bottom is that it not only hurts at the time, but stays sore and red for some time.  I appreciate that I can see my dad’s hand prints on my bottom, a clear mark of his authority, for some time after the spanking is over.  Those hand prints are my badge of submission.